3 Protestant Lies That Are Ruining Your Relationship

Set aside that bowl of self-loathing for some love stew

Listen, we are all messed up weirdos. Pretending otherwise is just lying to ourselves.

Regardless of our own personal beliefs, our country was founded on a bubbling pot of Protestant values. This means that beating ourselves up over every little thing we do wrong is a cultural pastime. We love dishing up bowls of self-loathing, and only serve love stew when we feel worthy.

Case in point: How much time per day do you beat yourself up for not working harder, for not cleaning the house more thoroughly, for not getting a better education, or owning a better house, or being a better partner?

I mean, it’s endless, right? Where do you think all this comes from?

There are plenty of other cultures that reinforce this type of self-loathing, but Protestants seem to have cornered the market on connecting self-worth with productivity. In the Protestant mindset, being poor is equal to being lazy is equal to being a sinner, and sinners are damned to hell.

I, for one, am not inclined to burn in the fiery pits of hell.

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