Some notes on a good relationship

Andrew R. French
2 min readApr 2, 2018


We are not, any of us, perfect.

We are all, every one of us, flawed.

A good relationship doesn’t involve two perfect people. That doesn’t exist.

We have all created our selves out of the maelstrom of our lives. The way we are is a reflection of a million things; the events in our lives that have unfolded, and our responses to them.

After all is said and done, in this moment we are what we are.

A good relationship involves two people who let each other be who they are.

Obviously we could all be better at being us.

A good partner helps us become better at being who we are.

There will always be conflicts. But those conflicts don’t define a good relationship.

A bad relationship is defined by conflict. A bad relationship involves two people trying to change eachother. There are two perfect people in a bad relationship.

Every relationship is a result of both chance and effort.

Every relationship is a fire that is either tended carefully or ignored.

A person in a good relationship takes good care of themselves and good care of their partner.

A relationship is a circle. Every action that leads away from a relationship is a straight line.



Andrew R. French

Writer at the Intersection of Ecosystem and Culture