A guru will always contradict themselves at some point.
A guru is a person who advises you on how to live your life, or tells you what life is all about, without any qualifications other than their status as a guru. So the first thing a guru does to become a guru is to insist upon his status as a guru.
Gurus, like priests, believe that they are consultants for your soul.
In general, consultants are those who do not do things, but make their living by advising others on what they should do. Why do we even have such a profession?
Occasionally it makes sense to employ them, when we need to build a restaurant or a bridge. Consultants in the trades have various experiences that may assist us in the development of new projects.
But how does someone ever have the chutzpah to tell someone else how to live their lives?
Perhaps it is simply a case of an enlarged ego, an ego big enough to want to pull other people into its orbit for self-gratification.
Telling others what to do is the ultimate display of power.
Here is a quote from the guru Osho about sex:
“Sex can give you the answer to what the reality of life is because sex is the most alive thing in you. Mind is the most dead thing in you and sex is the most alive thing in you. That is why mind is always against sex, and mind is always for suppressing it. They are enemies. Mind is a dead thing and sex is the life force; they go on fighting. And whenever you move into sex, the mind feels frustrated and the mind says, “This is wrong. Do not move into it again.
“The mind becomes the moralizer, the mind becomes the puritan, the mind becomes the priest. The mind goes on condemning. All that is alive the mind goes on condemning and all that is dead the mind goes on worshipping. And sex is the most alive thing in you because life comes through it: you are born through it, you can give birth through it. Wherever there is life, aliveness, sex is the source.”
So what he is saying is that sex and the mind are at odds, and that sex is the most alive thing in us. This may come as a big surprise to those who believe the most erotic part of sexuality is our imagination, i.e. the mind.
This is the issue with gurus — they write, talk, and converse endlessly, in order to overwhelm us with their endless wisdom. But at some point, their words come around in a big circle and begin to eat themselves.
Here is another quote by Osho:
“So really it happens that the more sexual a person is, the more inventive he can be. The more sexual a person is, the more intelligent. With less sex energy, less intelligence exists; with more sexual energy, more intelligence, because sex is a deep search to uncover, not only bodies, not only the opposite sex body, but everything that is hidden.”
Here he is, seemingly, directly contradicting himself. The more sex energy we have in our lives, he says, the more intelligent we become. But Osho, didn’t you just say that mind and sex are at war with each other? Intelligence resides, to a large degree, in the mind.
“I have said that man is afraid of both sex and death. That’s why they are taboos. No one talks about sex and no one talks about death. We remain silent about those two things. We have remained silent for centuries and centuries. They are taboo subjects, they should not even be mentioned. The moment they are mentioned, something starts trembling within us.
“It seems that there is a deep repression. That’s why we have created substitute words. In the western world they do not say ‘We are having sex.’ They say ‘We are making love.’ It’s a substitute word — and false, because love is a totally different dimension. Having sex is having sex, it is not making love. Love may include sex, but love has an altogether different quality.”
Here Osho expands on his banal ideas about sex and love. First, he notes that man doesn’t talk about sex and death. I’m not sure which man he is talking about. Every person I know talks about sex occasionally, or death, or love. Perhaps what Osho is saying is that we don’t talk about these things seriously, or frankly. I agree with that, although I have been informed that women talk about sex openly and frankly, so perhaps he is using the word “man” literally here, although he does say “no one” immediately after using the word “man”, so it is hard to tell.
I agree that sex and death are perhaps the most intense topics of conversation.
He goes on to separate the idea of love from the act of sex, which is common practice in the spiritual community and pornography. My favorite mystic poet Rumi does not separate life, sex, nor death. Unlike Osho, Rumi finds that his love contains him, and he contains his love.
“You’ve no idea how hard I’ve looked for a gift to bring You.
Nothing seemed right.
What’s the point of bringing gold to the gold mine, or water to the Ocean.
Everything I came up with was like taking spices to the Orient.
It’s no good giving my heart and my soul because you already have these.
So- I’ve brought you a mirror.
Look at yourself and remember me.”
When we read or hear these words we feel the truth in them immediately, if we have experienced the same thing. If we have not, Rumi’s words can only be beautiful, not transcendent.
Unlike Osho’s self-indulgent prattle, Rumi uses the bare minimum of words to convey the deep awakening in his soul.
The first Osho quote contained these lines: “Sex can give you the answer to what the reality of life is because sex is the most alive thing in you. Mind is the most dead thing in you and sex is the most alive thing in you.”
These words confuse us. Aren’t we using our minds to read them? Aren’t our minds alive? Perhaps sex can give us a glimpse of something transcendent as well, but Osho also says this:
“When you make sex to a person, woman or man, you think it unites you. For a moment it gives you the illusion of unity and then a vast division suddenly comes in. That’s why, after every sex act, a frustration, a depression sets in. One feels that one is so far away from the beloved. Sex divides, and when love goes deeper and deeper and unites more and more, there is no need for sex. Your inner energies can meet without sex, and you live in such a unity.”
Here he states that sex divides us, but if we go deeper and deeper into love than we will have no need for sex. The biological reality is that having sex can make us more intimate with our partners, physically and emotionally, in a loving long term relationship.
Here is another Osho quote:
“We are afraid of sex. The lower part of the body is not only lower physically, it has become lower as a value. It is condemned as “lower.” So do not go deep, just remain shallow. It is unfortunate that we can only breathe downwards. If some preachers were allowed, they would change the whole mechanism. They would only allow you to breathe upward into the head. Then you would absolutely not feel sex.
“If we are to create a sexless humanity, then we will have to change the breathing system. The breath must go into the head, to the sahasrar — the seventh center in the head — then come back to the mouth. This should be the passage: from the mouth to the sahasrar. It must not go deep down because down is dangerous. The deeper you go, the nearer you reach to the deeper layers of biology. You reach to the center, and that center is just near the sex center — just near. It has to be, because sex is life.”
Now we can finally ask: What the hell is he talking about? Sexless humanity? Change the breathing system? Breathe upward?
Finally, with these words we understand that Osho is a madman, or at last a talented gaslighter, and is essentially talking about himself and his own neuroses throughout all of his work.
There are no “deeper layers of biology” because biology is biology — there are only undiscovered aspects of it, not “deeper layers”. Perhaps that is what he meant, but his explanation about deeper biology includes the idea that it is near the sex center, and it has to be, because sex is life. Again I will give him the benefit of the doubt: Maybe he is talking about the limbic system of the brain, which includes the amygdala, and is the oldest section of the brain. Procreation is a driving force of evolution.
Even so, the issue I take with all of this unclear thinking is that it serves to confuse us and does not enlighten us, or even really educate us. We can feel that sensation, like a cloud over our consciousness, just like we can feel refreshed after reading words from a true mystic like Rumi who doesn’t tell us how to think and feel, like a guru does, but instead shares with us how he experiences this amazing thing called life.
“I have lived on the lip of insanity,
wanting to know reasons,
knocking on a door.
I’ve been knocking from the inside!”